"The universe is always changing. But in the Perfection Syndrome, you tend to swim upstream against change, trying to control your environment instead of working with it, all to avoid the possibility of failure. The need to control brings a harsh, judging attitude about things. You end up, no matter how successful your life looks on the trophy shelf, stressed out and burned out.
'Peak performance occurs when you are able to reach out and discover, using the natural essence of self - creativity, inquiry, and aliveness. When you operate from these qualities, rather than perfection, the questions that you ask are not whether you are right or wrong, but, 'What can I learn? What am I feeling? What value am I adding?' These questions lead you not to be concerned about failure but to be fascinated with the outcomes of your actions. And that fascination gives birth to the key to peak performance - awareness. Through awareness you make adjustments naturally." ~~ Tom Crum
During a recent gathering I witnessed both Peak Performance and the Perfection Syndrome. To have an object lesson to go with Tom's perspective drove home his points brilliantly.
Harsh, judging attitudes reduced the joy of the gathering. Those with Perfection Syndrome couldn't stop controlling. They monitored, manipulated, threatened, reactively snapped at people, and just generally were terrible wet blankets during the entire event. It was unpleasant to be in the same room
At the same time, those who achieved peak performance - or nearly so and when not under the badgering of the 'fear of failure' folks - enjoyed the time at hand. Discovery, joy, happiness, creativity, inquiry, aliveness, participation. Learning, feeling, adding value to themselves and their world. They were aware. They were interesting as well and interested. They were fun, lively. And, yes, I witnessed natural adjustments being made as situations ever-changed, as they always do. I enjoyed hanging out with these folks.
What I learned over this weekend is that when Jesus says that unless we become like little children we won't see the Kingdom of Heaven, I think He means just that. He means we have to be alive, aware, curious, interested, teachable, open, and able to adjust naturally to the ebb and flow of life. The childlike way is to be receptive rather than controlling, respectful rather than belligerent, inclusive rather than judging. It makes sense.
Life unfolds slowly, over time. One must pay attention for reaping follows sowing. And, though sometimes hard at the time, after love and awareness are sown, reaping is a beautiful thing.